Thursday, August 27, 2015

Kid Update!

ND Chic reminded me that I haven't done any updates on Pickle's health in a while, so I figured I'd do a general kid update, since that's where all my time is going.

Pickle is amazing. She still has her feeding tube, and is basically still dependent on it - but we have been doing weekly feeding therapy since January and are seeing huge strides. In recent weeks, we've managed to eliminate a quarter of what she gets by tube, as she's made gains with oral eating. She's also been weaned off all of her reflux meds, and is able to take by mouth medications that we used to have to give by tube (liquid vitamins and the odd ibuprofen/acetaminophen dose).

It's hard to guess whether she's close to actually losing the tube. She has mastered purees, but still stores a lot of food in her cheek and doesn't swallow it (this is common with toddlers, but typical kids still swallow some food because food cures hunger, and that's a connection Pickle's body has not yet made). Her feeding therapist works on desensitizing Pickle's lips, cheeks, and tongue and especially her gag reflex. They try all kinds of weird combinations of foods to challenge her with textures (lately it's been ritz cracker crumbs mixed in yogurt, blech).

The fascinating part to me is that Pickle and Baby Bear were briefly at the exact same stage with eating - but Baby Bear has now surpassed his big sister. If you've ever started an infant on solids, you know about the tongue thrust reflex and how their gag reflex is super close to the front of their tongue but gradually moves back as they put toys and food in their mouths. Because his instincts were not interrupted, Baby Bear managed to reduce his own gag reflex, learned to swallow mushed/chewed food instead of just liquid, is now capable of eating most table foods, and is working on his pincer grasp. Because Pickle's instincts told her that eating hurt, she still needs our help to reduce that gag reflex and learn to swallow anything that's not totally smooth.

At any rate, the therapy is definitely helping (and is covered by insurance, thankfully) so we are working on challenging Pickle more and more with how much she eats by mouth. In a way I'm in no rush to lose the tube, because she is getting awesome nutrition through it (I still make all her food in our blender, or sometimes use a commercial product called Real Food Blends - she hasn't had formula in over 18 months). Keeping her focused on eating by mouth is a challenge, because she gets bored with it way before she's eaten enough calories to sustain her, so it's nice to not have to worry about it.

At the same time, I think that for us losing the tube will be a lot like potty training: she's not going to do it until I force the issue. For potty training, I picked a day, warned her for about a week, and then threw all her remaining diapers away (into a box for Baby Bear to use when he grows into them). We had several messy days, but there was no going back to diapers for her, and so she has learned to use the potty, even at night. With the tube, I'll have to craft a plan with her medical team and then just...stop feeding her and let her body figure out how to regulate itself. This is much higher stakes than potty training, so we'll have to have a limit for weight loss and dehydration and be willing to step in if necessary, but I sort of see it needing to be an all-or-nothing thing. It's down the road, but I'm not sure how far.

In other news, she has handled several colds with no problem (sometimes we do rescue breathing medications, but we haven't had to actually go in to the pediatrician), she is meeting or exceeding most developmental goals for her actual age, and she's obsessed with construction equipment. Baby Bear is a good-sized almost-9-month-old, sleeps mostly through the night, has a bunch of teeth, and is army-crawling around the house. They are lovely siblings to each other and drive me up the wall every day.

Saturday, August 22, 2015

Capsule wardrobes for toddlers

It's getting close to consignment sale time, so I'm making my lists of what to buy. For the first time, I am not rounding out a bunch of hand-me-downs - I think I have maybe three things for Pickle for this winter. Conveniently, she is growing into a new size as the seasons change, and (sorry, I have to brag here for a second): she is growing into the right size for her age! I know that age and size aren't super correlated, but this is a child who was in size twelve months at her second birthday, so I am thrilled to be looking for size 3T pants a few weeks before she turns 3. Yay! (She's still tiny - around 1% on the growth chart - but hey, she's on the chart!)

Anyway, since the majority of her clothing has come from hand-me-downs, we've had situations where we are way lopsided on tops or bottoms, or have lots of different things that don't match each other. I like the idea of a capsule wardrobe (a limited number of pieces, where almost everything can be mixed and matched) and am trying to mimic the idea for the kids going forward. It's a little tricky with kids, since so much of their clothing is sold in sets, and also they go through so many costume changes a day sometimes, but here's what I'm thinking:

For a 3-year-old:
* a complete week's worth of clothing (7 pants + 7 tops, 7 pr underwear + 7 pr socks) plus a few extra in case of potty accidents or exuberant outdoor play. Plus an extra outfit for the diaper bag and one for the car. So, 12 pieces of each of those items.
* a couple hoodies or pull-over sweaters
* one nice outfit (we don't have many occasions for this kind of thing - maybe one or two weddings a year)
* 3-5 pajama sets or soft clothing that work as pajamas (I seem chronically understocked on pajamas). No more one-piece pajamas once potty training starts!
* rain coat
* winter coat
* hat, scarf, gloves (warm and maybe waterproof)
* winter boots
* sneakers
* snow suit? Not sure what kind of mileage we will get out of it this year (last year she wore it once and was not happy about it - but this year is a new year, after all!)

For a 9-month-old:
* two complete weeks' worth of clothing (combination of onesies, shirts, pants, and one-piece outfits), assuming 1.5 outfit changes a day plus the diaper bag and car bag.
* 8 million infant socks
* a couple hoodies
* one nice outfit
* 7 one-piece footy pajamas
* 2 sleep sacks
* soft shoes with grippy soles or something boot-like to cover the gap between sock and pants for when outside
* winter coat
* hat and gloves
* snow suit?

We already have two or three tubs of clothing for Baby Bear that were handed down to us, so I won't need to buy nearly as much for him - maybe nothing but socks. Still, it helps to have an end goal in mind, rather than just taking inventory.

I think in addition to taking their estimated sizes this year, I will also take some measurements (shoulders, waist, length of shirts & pants) and a drawing of their feet. Both kids are slim for their height, and every single pair of pants I bought Pickle last spring was too wide at the waist and too short in the legs. Measuring would help with that. I'm also going to try to make items mix-and-matchable, or maybe just pick a couple of colors for each kid and stick with those when picking out clothes. One hard and fast rule: no "Princess", "Diva", or "Flirt" type stuff for Pickle, and no sports-themed stuff for Baby Bear. I try to avoid name-brand logos and sayings in general, preferring simple designs or at most cute animals.

I am also looking for other basic stuff at the consignment sale: toddler cups/bowls/silverware, bibs (we never used them with Pickle, but Baby Bear is gonna need some!), diapers (disposable and swim), sunglasses, high chair covers, the perfect diaper bag (I will find it two days before I never need to carry a diaper bag again), and books.

It seems like so much stuff, when listed out like this, but just the other day I changed Pickle's pants four times (potty training is fun!) and Baby Bear three times (starting solids is fun!) so I don't think it's an unreasonable list. If I could just get their clothes to respectively mix and match, I wouldn't even have to fold anything - just dump it all in the right drawer and call it a day!


Tuesday, August 4, 2015

Comparison: Consignment Stores vs. Consignment Sales

I have a TON of stuff for the upcoming consignment sale, and I was a little overwhelmed at how much work it's going to be to hang, list, and tag everything. So I figured I'd take some things to a local consignment store, where the only work I have to do is make sure that the items are clean and in saleable condition. If I could make a similar return, it seemed like a win-win - especially since I can drop off at the store anytime, whereas the sale only happens twice a year (so I have to store stuff, which can be a pain - right now for example, I have two unusable closets plus a stack of big items in the basement). I ran over there last night to test out my theory.

Well, there is a pretty clear winner! Somewhat to my surprise: the consignment SALES - even factoring in the time it takes to get stuff ready.

I took two bags plus a few bigger items to the consignment store, but they only took seven items and I made a whopping.....$6.

Yeah.

Here's why I think the consignment sales are a better option.

1. The store's website claims that they take all seasons all the time. Turns out, that's not true, at least at my local store, so more than half my stuff they wouldn't even look at - even things like short-sleeved onesies, which, yes, have short sleeves, but are worn in the winter under other clothes. The consignment sale site is extremely clear on what they take and what they don't each season (and they DO take short-sleeved onesies in the winter, since people buy them!), so I know which clothes to ignore until the appropriate season rolls around.

2. The store didn't take any of my larger items - a bathtub, an Ergo insert, and a bottle warmer - even though, again, their website says they take baby equipment "of all types". All my stuff is in great shape and will definitely sell at the consignment sale. The sales person told me they don't take tubs at all, or "electronic equipment" (even though there are tons of electronic toys, so...) and that they don't take baby carriers, even though there was a whole wall of Baby Bjorns (but no Ergos). So...their policy is not clear at all, and the point goes to the sale for clarity.

3. The store has a rule about clothing - infant clothes must be either one piece full clothing (like footy pajamas) or two-piece sets (onesie and pants). They won't take individual pieces like pants or onesies, and they won't pair identical things like two pairs of pants or several onesies. The consignment sale has no such rule, although for little baby clothes, most people match up several like items (three pairs of pants or whatever) to hit the minimum $3 tag rule. Once again, this clothing rule was not listed anywhere on the store's website or on the handout they gave me listing their guidelines.

4. At the store, there's basically one person looking at all my items and deciding whether to buy them. At the sale, there's one person checking to make sure I've followed the rules (minimum $3 price, hung and tagged correctly, no stains or tears, etc) but every shopper is a potential buyer so as long as my stuff is in good shape, I have a way better chance of selling more stuff to more people than to fewer. So far, I've always sold about 75% of the things I bring to a consignment sale (the rest is donated to a non-profit, and I get a receipt for my taxes).

5. Lastly, the pricing at the store is not as favorable as the sales. They claimed to offer me 50% of what they plan to price the item, but I'm not sure this is accurate. For example, I had a pair of boots still in great shape that would have sold for at least $5 at the consignment sale (netting me 60%, or $3), and they gave me $0.90 for them, which indicates they plan to list them at $1.80. But I browsed their shoe bin while I was waiting, and there were no shoes that cheap - the cheapest I saw was $4.50 and a similar boot was for sale at $10. So. I think there's something pretty wonky with their pricing/payment scheme, and I have no control over the pricing and can't prove that they'll price them higher than what they say (I guess I could go back in a few days with my receipt and see what the boots are priced at if they're still there...).

So, my feeling at this point is that sorting and storing stuff for the consignment store is a complete crapshoot - it's a pain to lug everything out there and come home with most of it again. I asked for clarification and wrote down a bunch of notes, but I feel like it's also up to each employee's discretion as to what they'll take and what they won't. Between that and what I feel like are low-ball payments, I don't think it's worth my time to take more stuff to the consignment store. It might be easier to take loads of stuff to the store and then drop off whatever they don't take at a thrift store, and it would certainly get the stuff out of my house faster - but I would be irritated about the payout I received in exchange.

The sales are a lot of work, yes. A TON of work, if I do it all at once. What I've been trying to do this time as my kids outgrow things is to get them into perfect sale condition, keep them sorted by season, hang them as I go, and tag them in small batches when I have a little free time (if I take small enough chunks, I can even do it while the kids are occupying themselves in the same room). My dollar per hour return is almost certainly not even minimum wage - but so far I've managed to make more money selling outgrown clothes than I've spent on the next season's clothes, and that's a pretty good marker as well. It's also something I'm certain I couldn't manage to do at the consignment store, and that's the final answer for me.

Thursday, July 23, 2015

Patience pays off!

There is a product out there that is going to make me a better person. A nicer person, a happier person, a more productive person, and - why not? - a sexier person. This is not me falling for advertisements or marketing gimmicks. I know for a fact that this product exists, because pretty much everyone I know has it, and I'm betting that it will upgrade my life in a big way.

This miracle product?

A coffee maker.

I know. I know! How do I not own a coffee maker? Well, I do have one - a French press. About a year and a half ago, I broke the carafe and had to replace it, and I was really proud of myself for sticking with a fairly unconventional and low-waste method of coffee making, but the truth is, friends, I am Over It.

Baby Bear is finally sleeping through the night, so I am desperately trying to catch up on all the sleep I've missed for the last year (yes, I know sleep doesn't work that way. I'll argue about it with you later, when I'm not so tired.). I sleep until both kids wake up, basically, and to then have to get up and heat up water and wait five minutes and press and add sugar before I can even drink it....WELL. I haven't been able to have a cup of coffee while it's still hot in a really, really long time, folks.

But.

What if my coffee could just...happen? While I was still asleep? And I could just come downstairs and pour it into a cup with one hand and start drinking it? Could such bliss exist?

Obviously. It just took me a while to get to where the rest of the world has been for a long, long time.

But I'm still cheapy cheap, so I've been watching for my unicorn at the local thrift store that I love so much, the one where I get 20% off for donating*. I don't drink a lot of coffee - a cup or at most two per day - so I didn't want a giant coffee maker taking up valuable countertop real estate. I didn't want to have to buy paper filters, either, so I was looking for one with a reusable mesh filter. The combination of small pot and reusable filter is pretty rare, but today I scored it! And $6.99 + 20% off is a very thrifty $5.59.

It took several months of waiting and searching, but ultimately my patience paid off. I'm looking forward to enjoying my first magic-brewed up tomorrow morning. (Also, I bought a like-new cross-body strap purse that might be the perfect purse ever, and a wallet that is probably the answer to my prayers. If this isn't the luckiest shopping trip I've ever had, I just don't know what it is.)

Have you waited a long time to find the perfect thing at the perfect price?



Side note: Recently, this organization was taken to task in Minnesota for not really operating as a non-profit, but claiming to. They are still battling it out in court, but now when I donate I am given a coupon and a letter about the good work they do but noting that I cannot claim this donation on my taxes, since I am not helping any non-profit organization. I thought about this for a good ten minutes the first time I got the letter, and decided that I could care less. I don't itemize my taxes, the donations I made for the last few years never did me one bit of good on my taxes, and really all I care about is my 20% and keeping things out of landfills. This company still winds up recycling goods and reselling them for great prices, and I am totally happy with that. Plus, it's fewer receipts I have to keep for tax season, and saves me time! Win-win-win-win-win.

Wednesday, June 10, 2015

2015 Summer Bucket List

Inspired by The Frugal Girl, I've decided to write up a summer bucket list. It's sort of a cheat, since at least one of these things has already happened, but it was on my bucket list before summer began, so...

1. Visit my family down south. 

Done! We had a nice time, stayed long enough that I was ready to come home, and also crossed off "fly with the kids" from a bucket list. I'm almost confident enough now to take a trip with them by myself, but we'll see if it comes down to that anytime soon.

2. Go to a park twice a week. 

There are multiple parks within a few blocks of us, but getting there with two kids has so far been a challenge. Where we live is hilly so the double stroller is a good workout for me, but hard to do when it's hot out. I feel kind of dumb driving, but I'll do it. But then when we're at the park, I'm sort of at a loss - Pickle still needs a lot of help getting around on the playground structures or being pushed in a swing, but what do I do with Baby Bear? He's not content to lie in the stroller and it's getting too hot to wear him in the Ergo. I would like to find a park that has two baby swings next to each other so I can push them both in the swings at the same time, but I haven't found one yet.

3. Go swimming at least once a week. 

This is another challenge with two little ones. There are lots of free wading pools and splash pads near us, but I feel like both kids need my undivided attention for safety. Unless anyone knows of a baby carrier that can go in the pool? That would be great. My other option is my in-laws' house - they have a pool and there's usually a grandparent or other adult around to play with Pickle in the big pool while Baby Bear and I splash in the little one. We just have to make a point of going.

4. Eat outside once a week. 

We have a lovely backyard that's getting lovelier now that we've decided what to do with some of the more questionable landscaping choices the previous owners made. It's kind of a hassle to drag the high chairs and whatnot outside, but I want to do it anyway.

5. Get all winter consignment sale items hung and tagged. 

Getting all my consignment stuff hung and tagged is a big project every time, but this season is going to be particularly large, and I don't want to put it off until the last minute. I'm about 1/3 of the way caught up, and when I get that done, I'd like to stay on top of it by hanging and tagging as soon as I determine that my kids have outgrown something.

6. Go to the Childrens Museum at least three times.

I bought a membership to our local Childrens Museum almost a year ago, went frequently for a while, and then got too pregnant to manage it. Our membership expires in about six weeks, and I'm unsure whether I want to renew it. I'll need to go check it out with both kids to see if it's still worth it.

7. Go to the zoo at least once a month. 

We might trade our museum membership for a zoo membership - it's a donation-based zoo, but membership has perks and we visit often enough in the winter that it'd be a good karma thing to do. In the winter there are preschool days, and in the summer there's a little theme park that Pickle might be old enough to enjoy. It's a fun quick outing for us, and if I remember to pack a lunch, winds up being very inexpensive.

8. Clean up the basement. 

The workbench is Peanut's domain for the most part, but I need things from it too sometimes and it's a disaster. There are other things I want to do down there, plus it's nice and cool, so we'll probably spend the hottest days down there while I get this project done.

9. Hold a diaper-box-truck playdate. 

I've been saving diaper boxes and any other box I come across ever since I saw this tutorial (thank you, Pinterest). I'm not super crafty but this seemed fun and cheap, and I've been wanting to host a project-based playdate for my moms' group. This will be a great way to use up some recyclables, give preschoolers a fun time, and take up a morning or afternoon.

10. Round on the NICU once a month. 

I've recently been through training to serve as a parent advocate at the hospital where Pickle spent the first five months of her life. I found it very helpful to talk to parents who had survived what seemed unsurvivable, and I am so thankful to be at a place in my life where I'm ready to give back. It can be emotionally wrenching to go back to the ward, so I don't want to burn myself out, but I do think I need a minimum goal to keep my skills sharp (maybe you wouldn't think that this work would need specific skills, but it does - there are so many things to say or not to say, so many ways to approach delicate situations, so many assumptions to avoid making that it really pays to stay in practice).

So that's my summer bucket list. I've got lots of other ideas as well and have been compiling a calendar of free summer activities that I find, but these are the things that I really, really want to accomplish.

What does your summer look like?


Wednesday, June 3, 2015

Frugality in the moment

I've thought a lot lately about choosing frugality when it's off in the future vs. when you're in the middle of a situation where throwing money at the problem can make it go away.

Basically, do you pay for seats on the plane ahead of time?

We recently flew on a low-cost budget airline that charges extra for everything from carry-on bags (yes, carry-on!) to soda onboard the aircraft. Of course, choosing your own seat cost extra as well. I'm still getting used to traveling with other people than just myself, so on the first leg of the flight, I did what I would normally do - save money by not choosing seats ahead of time. This meant that I was stressed out about whether or not we'd all get to sit together right up until we checked in at the airport - and then my stress level skyrocketed when the agent looked worried as she tried to book our seats. She was able to get us in a row together (two adults, one kid, and one baby in arms) but it wasn't a sure thing.

Now, I will argue all day that when you buy tickets at the same time on the same credit card OBVIOUSLY you should get those seats together, but that's not how life in the real world works apparently. For the flight back, I paid $15 to make sure that we got a row together so I could avoid the stress of not knowing or of asking people to move so that we could sit together. Actually, I wasn't too stressed out about asking people to move (one look at our babies and people would probably volunteer to sit somewhere else!) but it occurred to me that if someone else had paid to select a seat and then had to move because of my wanting to save money, I would have veered from frugal to miserly, and that's not a line I want to cross.

Paying for it as a separate expense still irked me, so I tried to think of it as just rolling it into the cost of the plane tickets - they were still so much cheaper than another airline that would have offered confirmed seating for free. Being in the middle of the situation rather than just imagining it down the road made it a lot easier to throw money at the problem to fix it. I'm sure I do this without thinking all the time, and it's a slippery slope (buying the candy bar to stop your kid's tantrum is effectively the same thing) but sometimes I know I am just too cheap for my own good, and I'm glad I coughed up the money to relieve some stress during our trip.


Tuesday, May 12, 2015

Adventures in Shopping

There are a couple of thrift stores by me that I really like. They are sort of like Goodwill, only I think they are a little more picky about the stuff they actually sell, because the merchandise is all really good but the prices are awesome. And even better, whenever you donate, you get a coupon for 20% off - so every time I go shopping, I make sure to take a box or two of stuff. This helps keep things moving on out of my house AND saves me money - win win!

Anyway, my last trip there wound up teaching me a lesson. I decided that I need some summer pants - last summer, I was wearing maternity clothes, and I was pretty sure I didn't have anything from my pre-pregnancy era that would work for chasing after two kids in the summer. So I tried on a ton of capri-type pants (I don't do shorts) and found three pair that I liked a lot. Like, loved them, must have owned them in a former life, loved them. I bought them (with a 20% off coupon!) and brought them home. When I went to rearrange my drawers to feature my new summer digs, I found...dun dun dun...a HUGE STACK of summer pants that totally fit me now. Including...wait for it...three pairs of pants that were basically identical to the ones I'd just purchased.

No wonder I liked them so much.

*headdesk*

The pants I already owned still fit, so I decided to return the three new-to-me pair. The store does exchanges within seven days, so I wound up buying a bunch of toys for the kids. Which is not something that I intended to do (I try not to buy toys for them, since they have lots of grandparents and aunts and uncles), but that money was spent either way and I didn't have the courage to try on more clothes, especially since when I went back I had both kids with me.

So, lesson learned: look through your summer clothes BEFORE you decide to go shopping for more.

Second lesson learned - try not to buy toys with batteries. Pickle fell in love with a little toy piano thing, which had some weird stains on the bottom and didn't work. Assuming it needed new batteries, I bought it ($3.99-20% off) but it turns out that those weird stains were from when the existing batteries exploded inside of it. Peanut was able to salvage it so it can run on a cell phone charger, but I'm not going to buy anything else that needs batteries unless I know that it works before I bring it home.

Also, third lesson learned: don't take your kids shopping if you can help it.

Sunday, April 26, 2015

Weekly Meal Plan and Update

I try to only set up one family activity per weekend, but I failed roundly at that and we are all worn out today. Here's hoping we can reign it in for the next few days and try to settle back in to our regular routine. In that spirit, I've tried to plan low-key meals this week.

Sunday - pasta with sausage and peppers
Monday - quesadillas
Tuesday - brats and veggie dogs (time to start grilling out!)
Wednesday - Thai chili from the freezer for me and tacos for Peanut
Thursday - tomato risotto, green salad
Friday - more grilling out
Saturday - free for all

I've been working on clearing out the fridge, freezers and pantry of all the things I stocked up on when they were on sale. I struggle with finding a balance between stocking up and using up the stuff we have on hand. Usually I make my meal plan and grocery list from what's on sale and what I have a hankering for, but I've been trying to look in the cupboards first the last few weeks and our grocery bills have been correspondingly lower.

A few other random things:
Today I hosted my last shower for a long time. There have been a lot of weddings and babies in my family  lately, but I think we've hit the end of the events I feel responsible for planning. The work was split among four women, so not too much went to any one person, but the amount of work and expense is always a little bit of a surprise.

Peanut and I spent about a quarter of what we usually spend on our credit card last month. We didn't have any big unusual expenses like dental visits or even large grocery bills (thanks to this pantry clean out), so we just managed to spend less than we have been. I think probably we spent a little more last month than average so it works out, but it was fun to pay a credit card bill that was less than $500!

I managed to put $2,500 into our new car fund already! I know we won't be able to do that for a few months as we bankroll our trip to visit my family, but I'm glad to have been able to start it off with a sizable balance. Gives me motivation to keep it up!

My insurance agent sends us $1 on our birthdays. It's a silly tradition, especially since I know it's pure marketing (which pretty much totally works on me), but I was very surprised that Pickle recognized it immediately. She's two and a half and doesn't get an allowance, and doesn't even really go shopping with us all that often, but as soon as she saw it, she said "Money for Mommy!" I hope she's picking up things like "saving money" by osmosis as well.

Monday, April 13, 2015

New (to us) Car Update!

All I can think about is my new (to me) SUV....I dream about it. I can't wait.

Except I am going to wait. For about a year.

Peanut started searching for the vehicle that's going to make me sing aloud when I drive it, and we discovered a couple of things. First, we have no idea what our car is worth - cars in similar condition but with much higher mileage are selling on Craigslist for way more than what KBB values our car. Second, SUVs are more expensive than comparable sedans (in terms of model year, mileage, condition). The only way for us to get an SUV that wouldn't be a step down would be to either deplete our cash savings or skip retirement contributions next year or take out a loan. We aren't comfortable with any of those options, especially since this is very much a WANT situation and not a NEED situation (the Mazda runs fine, after all) so we decided to try to save up enough money to max out Roth IRAs ($11,000) and pay cash for an SUV ($12,000) by a year from now.

Can we save $23,000 in 12 months?

Well, we managed to save $20,000 last year, roughly - helped out by our newest little tax deduction and a property tax refund and some other unexpected income - so we think we can do it again this year. Our savings for the last few years has been amorphous - retirement, emergency fund, just saving to save. We haven't had a tangible goal for a while, and I'm excited about that. It's much easier for me to make frugal choices when I can make the argument, "Hmmm, I can spend $8 on takeout right now...or I can put $8 towards MY NEW CAR." I only have to make that choice 1,500 times to save $12,000.

We don't have a lot of wiggle room as it is - we already are pretty frugal when it comes to daily living expenses and we won't be cutting out things like our big annual trip to visit my family. But we'll continue squeezing where we can, and also redirect all unexpected income (hello, birthday money!) towards this goal, and I think we can get there. I should put a counter up on the sidebar to keep track of this - maybe it will even help us get there early!




Sunday, April 5, 2015

Meal Plan and Plan for the Week

Sunday - creamy cheesy chicken enchiladas
Monday - chicken wild rice soup (from the freezer, brought over by my MIL when Baby Bear was born)
Tuesday - crockpot veggie chili (from the freezer - the other two batches were bad, so if this one is too, then frozen pizza)
Wednesday - BLTs and spaghetti squash
Thursday - pasta with sausage and peppers
Friday - mexican quinoa

I'm also making pumpkin nut bread and vegan sweet potato cinnamon rolls this week. Recipes can be found on my Pinterest board!

It's kind of a boring week foodwise, but we've got a lot going on. April is turning out to be a very busy month, with multiple appointments between the two kids every week. I also have something of a social life for the first time in a long, long time! And it's my birthday month, which means I will be cashing in some birthday rewards, which is always fun.

I've been working my way through a 30 days of yoga series on YouTube, as a way to ease back into being a little more active. It's challenging, physically and metaphysically. Each 30 minute practice usually takes me an hour and a half or so to complete, between all the diaper changes, boo-boo kisses, rocking to sleep, and "help" that I get during each one. I feel better in many ways at the end of it, though, and it is after all a practice, not a perfect. It'll probably take me two months to complete all 30 sessions, but that's okay - at least I'm trying.



Friday, March 27, 2015

Thinking about a new (to us) car...

We have a perfectly fine sedan. We bought it four years ago from the previous/only owner, who'd kept it in good shape. It runs well and has given us no problems. We just got new tires for it. When we bought it, we planned to run it into the ground and possibly hand it off to our children, who at that time were purely hypothetical.

And yet.

Every time I get in the car, I curse it. I've got two kids in car seats and neither of them can do anything to help me get in them. Bending over, lifting them in and out, and buckling them in just sucks. When I'm standing six inches higher on the curb thanks to the snowpack, it sucks even more.

I'd mentioned several times to Peanut how much I was hating the car because of this and how I would really love to have something that's higher off the ground so I wouldn't be killing my back every time I go anywhere, but by the time we get a different car I won't be dealing with car seats anymore. And then he boggled my mind by suggesting that, well, we could just get a different car now.

Ha! Don't laugh, guys, but it seriously hadn't occurred to me that it could be a real option. That's just what I do with cars; I'm their last owner. My first car was scrapped, my second car was donated (and probably scrapped). I assumed that the same would happen to this, my third car. But now I'm thinking of the possibilities....I could have a higher car! For reals! Just entertaining the idea makes me feel like a freaking grown-up.

We're still in the mostly dreaming stage at this point. We've tossed around the idea of getting a car loan at a low interest rate and investing the cash we would spend on it in the stock market, but after looking into the math it's obvious why everyone doesn't do this - it doesn't work (or, it might work, but it's too risky to make up for the guaranteed interest payments over a short term). We've also thought about buying a car from a non-snow state (to avoid existing rust damage) and having Peanut just fly down there and drive it back. Or I guess we could trade it into a dealership (another thing I never, ever thought I would do) and pay a small cash difference. My preference is to buy from a private seller and then sell our current car privately as well, but my time is awfully constricted right now, so looking on Craigslist and setting up test drives and all that just seems impossible. (I'm still not able to manage cleaning both my hair and my body in the same day. I take five minute showers when I can and wash my hair in the kitchen sink while one of the kids is napping. Ah, young motherhood.)

At any rate, it seems like in these discussions we're moving from "should we buy a different car now?" to "we should buy a different car now, how should we do it?" It feels really surreal, and exciting in that new (to me) car way, but also weird because it's so against the way I've thought about my life up to this point. Obviously the cheapest car you can own is the one you already own generally speaking, but there are times in your life when it's not just about the fewest dollars out the door and more about realizing, yes, but this is the life I'm living now so let's pony up and do what needs to be done to get a good standard of living for ourselves. I don't think badly of my friends when they get a different car (unless they are really stupid and drive a brand new next-year's model off the lot with no money down), so why is it weird for me to get a different car because the old one isn't meeting my needs as well as it used to?

Lots to think about. What would you do?


Tuesday, March 24, 2015

This week's meal plan and a new approach to cooking

Sunday - homemade mac & cheese, asparagus
Monday - red lentil thai chili
Tuesday - broccoli cheese soup
Wednesday - crockpot lasagna
Thursday - salsa chicken
Friday - tortilla soup
Saturday - chicken tikka masala

I've been so busy I can hardly keep my head on straight. Pickle has weekly therapy sessions again, and with the warmer weather we've been doing things like library storytime as well. It's a lot more complicated to get two kids out of the house and inevitably there's an unexpected last minute diaper change or nursing session that gets in the way. I go to bed utterly exhausted, even though Baby Bear is only waking up once or twice to eat at night now. It does make the days go by quickly, but I will be glad for a little breathing room.

One of the reasons I want some more calm time in my life is for my new project: cooking through my cookbooks. I have an entire cabinet of cookbooks, many from my days in publishing, and after the last time a Pinterest recipe failed me, I decided to stop finding recipes online and start looking through my printed books. They have the benefit of test cooks, after all! So I'm going through my cookbooks one by one and marking all recipes that I'd like to try. If we like it, it gets copied into my own personal recipe file and once I've tried all the recipes that look good to me in a given cookbook, that book will get sold or donated and out of my life. So - we're trying better recipes AND I'm freeing up space in my kitchen for something else. Yay!

So far, most of the recipes have been keepers, and the ones that haven't been great haven't been as bad as the ones I've found online. We're still eating a lot of Costco prepared soup and frozen pizzas, but I feel like I'm bouncing back to "on top of things" a lot faster after the second kid than I did with the first.

Cleaning, on the other hand.....

Tuesday, March 17, 2015

Preparation Fail

During my third trimester I got bit by the nesting bug as many pregnant women do. On the one hand, it was great - there are parts of my house that got cleaned that will probably never be cleaned again!

On the other hand, I had some pretty big frugality fails. I made a number of freezer-to-crockpot meals and baked goods that just....weren't good. It was a combination of factors: with the baked goods, I double-bagged them before freezing but one loaf still got nasty freezer burn after both bags somehow ripped. And the crockpot meals were pretty unilaterally awful. I only used recipes that I had previously made in the crockpot, but the freezing part of it just didn't work. I had made nine meals plus the components of three more, and so far three of them were completely inedible (the taste was so bad I think we would have actually gotten sick from eating them), two of them were just okay, three more were not as good as fresh, and the remaining three are hiding out in the deep freeze, most likely to be abandoned as lost causes.

UGH.

What a waste of time and money. I remember feeling so accomplished about getting those bags frozen and put away, standing on my huge pregnant feet for so long, but knowing that my future self would be appreciative. Instead, my future self was disappointed and kind of grossed out.

I am done with freezer cooking, that's for sure. The only thing I've ever successfully done was breakfast burritos and I've tried enough recipes enough times that I think I'm good with giving up. C'est la vie - but at least we'll be eating better from now on. :/

Saving a dollar vs. getting a dollar

We needed a few things from the store the other day - milk and a couple other non-grocery things - so we decided to head to Target, all four of us. Where we are, the milk at Target is a bit more expensive than the milk at the grocery store - and it's also more expensive than the milk at the gas station a few blocks from our house. We buy two gallons at a time and the savings of getting it somewhere other than Target is about $1.

We had to pass the gas station and the grocery store in order to get to Target. We debated the value of convenience - was it worth a dollar to make an extra stop for one of us to run in and get cheaper milk? It certainly isn't worth it at the grocery store - the milk is as far from the front door as it can get, and the lines on the weekends are long. And the person in the car with the kids would probably have to drive in circles in the parking lot to avoid wailing from the backseat. The gas station would probably have been less than a two minute interaction to save that dollar - and two minutes to save $1 is equivalent to earning more than $30 per hour, so that seems like it makes it very worth it.

For some reason the extra stop to save just $1 was a stumbling block in my mind. We'd be walking right by the milk at Target anyway, surely that convenience was worth $1.

But then I switched the question up in my head - would I stop at the gas station if I would actually be handed a dollar with the milk? In the end, it winds up being the exact same exchange, but the idea of stopping to GET a dollar instead of to SAVE a dollar made it a whole lot more palatable to me. I'm going to try to do this kind of thinking in other areas where it could potentially save me money - to think of exchanging convenience as GETTING money (a la working) instead of SAVING money (a la boring).

[In the end, it turns out that Target's milk prices have dropped since I last updated my price book, and now milk costs the same at all three places. I was a little disappointed at not "getting" my dollar, even though I ended up spending the least amount I could on milk AND saved two minutes.]

Saturday, March 14, 2015

Defining luxury

I really liked the recent New York Times Motherlode blog post, A Stay-at-Home Parent is Not a 'Luxury'. I have sometimes been irritated when I've been told this about our life, but haven't been able to put into words exactly why it bothers me, and the author does a pretty good job summing it up.

To some extent, of course, my staying home IS a luxury - there are many families where two incomes are required simply to provide for basic needs. But in comparison to most middle class families, it's simply a matter of priorities. We don't go on nice vacations. We don't have game systems or cable. Our kids don't do things like music or tumbling classes or immersion preschools. Why are those things not considered luxuries?

My staying home means less income, and it also means less spending on things that are just for fun. We live comfortably, for sure, but I don't feel as free to spend (especially on myself) as I did when we had two incomes, and we weigh our large purchases a lot more carefully than we did in the past. If my staying home is a luxury, it's because we gave up other luxuries that are more often considered necessities - cable and takeout and enrichment classes and weekends away. It's all relative.