Monday, June 1, 2009

Looking for advice

Hedder02's comment on a previous post gave me some food for thought!

Congrats on moving in. I want to give you the heads up that the first 90 days are going to be full of change. No matter who I talk to (including when we moved in together) it is a 3 month adjustment period. Its just hard to figure out - well, I cooked so you clean? Who does the laundry? I don't feel like vacuming but if I don't do it, then you will be mad - that sort of stuff.

Peanut and I have been basically living together since, um, our third date. I wonder how much of a shock moving in will really be--we're always together already. I know, many couples say this. But I don't mean like, oh, we see each other a lot and keep a toothbrush at each other's place. I mean we haven't spent a night apart in more than a year unless one of us was out of town. We cook every meal together, do laundry together...basically spend every spare moment together.

Of course, it's easy for me to sit here and say, oh, we won't be like everyone else. Moving in together will feel perfect and easy right from the start, and nothing will ever go wrong again. I know that things will change, and things will come up that I never suspected. So, to those of you who have lived with or are living with a significant other, what advice do you have for us? This could range from financial to personal to decorating--whatever you've got.


  1. I don't know, I found it mostly easy, so I think you will too! I am used to a lot of personal space, but I also speak up if I really need it...

    I think speaking up about things is the best advice, but that goes for a general relationship anyway, and you probably already know how to do that.

  2. Dead easy for me... but I did notice that when I was at home without a contract, I felt guilty that I wasn't cooking and cleaning the dishes (his job) but I did everything else

    And now he's getting antsy, and he wants to do all the cleaning cooking and laundry.. but then I feel useless..


    And he packed the whole apartment too :P I didn't lift a finger

    I think it all boils down to helping each other out, even if laundry is strictly MY task, he helps out a bit. and vice versa.. I cook and clean a bit in the kitchen instead of leaving it

  3. Best of luck. I think communication is key so hopefully you guys will do great!

  4. Ha! I love this! "Peanut and I have been basically living together since, um, our third date." D and I constantly joke that we went on our first date, and he never left. Seriously! He stayed over because it was so late (of course, we were angels), and he spent every night with me after that. The only time we've been apart - a whole day - was when I went home for Christmas.


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