Monday, November 16, 2009

Doing Stuff

Peanut and I are homebodies by nature. However, I also tend to overschedule myself, and then wind up exhausted and cranky. I did this all the time when I was belly dancing a lot—the jobs would end up taking eight or twelve hours of my weekend and I’d have a lot of other things going on as well. So I made a new rule that I can only commit to one thing on the weekend—one book club meeting or one brunch or whatever. But I think I’ve gone overboard in the other direction.

Since moving in together it seems like we’ve become little hermits, locking ourselves away for the weekend and playing video games or reading, venturing out only for food. On Halloween, I pitched a mini-fit when I realized I’d inadvertently agreed to go to a Halloween “party” (which wound up being five people playing cards and drinking beer—I thought we were going to pass out candy to kids and call it a night).

But Peanut’s friend has been visiting, so we’ve been pretending that we’re social animals and showing him some of the sights—we’ve been to some of our favorite restaurants, ventured down to Coney Island on a red flag day (very cool), saw the New York Aquarium and Nathan’s hot dogs, hit up the Lower East Side and St. Mark’s Place, sat on a big pile of rocks in Central Park and watched ice skaters, ventured into Times Square, had drinks at a beer garden, and without me, they walked to Roosevelt Island and visited the abandoned smallpox museum and took the tram over the river. And I’ve had so much fun. I’m a little jealous that they’ve still got two days ahead of them to go play and I had to come back to work.

I think it’s important to pay attention to one’s nature—I’m an introvert and I really do need time at home to center myself. But going out once a weekend to do something interesting, go to a museum or park or SOMETHING certainly wouldn’t kill me, nor would it be that expensive. I’d hate to move away from New York with a big long list of things I hadn’t done because I was so busy being at home every weekend.

So my new goal is to try to do something every weekend. Here’s a short list of things I want to do:
The Tenement Museum
The Transit Museum
The Museum of the Moving Image (when it reopens)
The Museum of Television and Radio
The Museum of Sex
Coney Island in the summer but not the Mermaid Parade
San Gennaro Festival


  1. Yes, definitely do all of those things. I'm a native New Yorker and I feel like I'll actually never leave the city. Because of that, I've never really taken the chance to explore anything. By the grace of school trips I've been to the Empire State Building, Ellis Island, the Statue of Liberty and the Museum of Natural History. But I still have never been to the Met.

    I keep telling myself one day I'll go, but I really have no motivation. I think you should definitely go. Then I can live vicariously through your experiences. No? Not good? Ok, ok, I'll try to go...try. haha.

  2. I chronically overschedule myself as well. I will stop someday.

    I found I'm happiest with one weekend day/night spent going "out" in some way, and another on to veg.

  3. i'm a hermit as well and i have to make an enormous effort to go out and something and spend time with friends just because i'm perfectly happy hiding in my room and reading my books. "being social" for me is hanging out in a crowded coffee shop while reading a book.

  4. Yay for getting out of the house!

    I feel the same way, my weekends are usually on one side of the spectrum: either really boring, or really jam packed. I've been getting slightly better as I've had to learn to say "no" to myself! (Like SP, I also like to reserve one day to be slower paced...usually Sundays for me.)

    I too have a list of places to go in my city....its amazing how little we get out, when people are dying to come visit the city we live in!

  5. I'm a little jealous that you have someone to be a hermit with. That is kind of my dream... I totally agree about the balance of going out and staying in. I'm trying to get better at that too.

    And I was just at the tenement museum the other weekend and it is really awesome and totally worth the trip.

  6. You just so totally described ME! I definitely want to get out and do more things, but almost everything costs money. (Is there really a Museum of Sex??)

    I'm with SP, I like to have a day spend out doing something and a day in.


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