Tuesday, September 6, 2011


Whew! I have just left the starting gate for what will (hopefully) be the busiest month of the year for me.

To recap: five weddings in five weeks. Two require travel, one includes Peanut as a member of the wedding party. Shower invitations, bachelor/bachelorette parties, and wedding gifts. What do I wear? And all the other things that go along with wedding season.

Wedding #1 was this past weekend - one of the easiest in terms of obligations (I was someone's plus-one, had met the groom once, and the couple didn't want gifts and didn't have a registry) but hopefully the most expensive. Hopefully only because it's over, the money's spent, and hopefully none of the rest will cost quite as much.

I flew to Chicago on Friday afternoon and spent the long weekend there with my friend. In addition to the wedding, we did a lot of touristy things like the hop-on/hop-off bus tour of downtown Chicago and visiting the Sears -er, Willis Tower. We ate out every meal and stayed in a fancy place downtown (she Priceline'd it, but as it was a holiday weekend, it was still expensive). We drove back yesterday, stopping at the Jelly Belly factory and the House on the Rock in Wisconsin, and got in late. Total spent: I'm still not sure yet, but it's going to be several hundred bucks total. I guess it was worth it - I'd never been to Chicago before and had only ever flown into Minneapolis, so it was great to see a bit more of my new part of the country. My friend and I are big travel buddies and have seen a number of major cities together in the years we've known each other (including Boston, Philadelphia, New York, Nashville, Providence, Memphis and a few more). I hadn't seen her in a few months, and we're suddenly at similar places in our lives, so it was GREAT to catch up with an old friend.

On the other hand, I was surprised to find myself completely traveled out well before our trip was over. The road trip novelty wore off pretty quick, I got really tired of fast food fare, and missed my own bed. I also dreaded returning to work this morning knowing that I have commitments every night for the foreseeable future and I didn't get a chance to do laundry or go grocery shopping to prepare for it. Maybe I'm getting old? I was a little tight-fisted, too - instead of seeing this as a vacation, I saw it as a burden of expense. I can afford it, but I think having a savings goal like a house instead of a general "someday" fund has made me a lot stingier with spending outside of normal expenses.

At any rate, it's done and I just need to tally up the total and figure out if I owe her anything for gas, and then I can do a proper evaluation of how much it cost.

This weekend's wedding will be the most time-involved, as Peanut is the best man. His tux is already paid for, I have a dress to wear, but I still need to go shopping for the bridal shower gift (I missed the shower while I was in Chicago), a bachelorette party gift, and a wedding gift. Next weekend I'll be traveling again, with a 5 a.m. (!!!) flight out of town. That one puts me close to some family members I haven't seen in a while - so hopefully I won't be such a whiner about that trip.

When I've caught up on my sleep and resolved myself to the sunk cost factor, I won't be so cranky about all of this. I love weddings, even more so after I got married myself. I am so happy to be able to share in other people's special day, and it makes me take a second look at my own commitment and reminds me to be thankful for Peanut, with our own anniversary just weeks away.

I just wish they weren't all eating into my house fund. :p

Do you have any weddings to attend this fall? Did you travel for Labor Day? Do you still like road trips as you get older, or am I a total party-pooper?


  1. I had 3 weddings to attend this year; 2 down 1 to go. The next and last one is a 2 hour drive from my home. While it's great to see the wedding and the start of their new life together it is not without cost. And as we get older the price tag seems to get higher and higher. :( I still like road trips but now I have a 10 hour limit.

  2. I am now 30 and still love road trips. I really enjoy the experience of seeing new places and I am a country girl so love looking at the farms, trees and animals as we drive past.

  3. Awe man. I love a good road trip and try to take one at least twice a year to California. I take trips here and there home but I haven't really been making an effort lately. I get tired driving there and not having people come up here to see me, if ya get my drift.


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