Friday, January 1, 2016

2015 New Years Resolutions Recap

1. Less yelling. When I failed this one, I failed pretty spectacularly, so it's hard for me to dwell on it too long. I know that there were moments that I managed to succeed, but the moments that stay with me are the ones where I tripped up. On the plus side, I made the effort, I did a lot of research on parenting approaches to give me more tools to deal with frustration or manage our lives in such a way that yelling is less likely, and we've taken steps to mitigate the situations I have the hardest time dealing with.

2. Get stronger. I felt pretty weak physically at the beginning of 2014 after spending almost a full year in a high-risk pregnancy and then recovering from a c-section. I didn't manage to get any kind of regular exercise routine in place, but I did make an effort to walk to the park or preschool, take the stairs, carry both kids at once, and even do some home-based yoga for a while. I feel almost back to my old self. I'm in as good of shape as can be expected for this period of my life, I think. 

3. Treasure the moment.  At the end of 2015, I will have a preschooler and a toddler - no babies. I wrote that sentence a year ago, and it literally brought a tear to my eye today to realize that it's true. Baby Bear is a full-blown toddler, with full-blown toddler tantrums, a toothy grin, and those first wobbly steps about to appear any minute. This year, it has been really hard to treasure the moments - Baby Bear has been a much more difficult baby than Pickle ever was (colic, constantly nursing, never sleeping - oh, god, the not sleeping) so I have very much looked forward to milestones instead of sniffing baby heads and pinching baby toes. This is a year I will be relieved to never have to live through again, but I think I've managed to notice and be present for a lot of the really amazing moments (like the other day, when Pickle asked to sing Baby Bear a song for his nap, and then rubbed his back and sang to him in an eerily familiar mimicry of the way I do it for her). 

4. Max out retirement. Success! We maxed out our Roth IRAs and Peanut contributed to his SEP IRA to get the employer match (which has not always been managed correctly, but it's been documented and sooner or later all the money will show up there). 

5. Bring in some side income. Success! I sold a bunch of baby stuff, medical supplies, books, and other household items, participated in a medical research study, and did some Swagbucks/survey/reward app things. It wasn't a ton of money, but it did add up, and I also tried hard to find ways to save money on regular spending, which is a good use of my time as well. 

2 comments:

  1. Aah, yelling. The unspoken method of coping that most parents do. I do yell at my kids but I try to work on it. I was talking to some of my coworkers and we all admitted to yelling at our kids at times. I tend to yell at bedtime when I should be focused on winding down. I now do the first tuck in with my daughter and my husband takes over after that. I know its a weak point for me every night. I think if you're aware of it, you've taken the first step and it gets better from there.

    That said, I do yell at my kids if there is danger present and they amazingly listen very well. For instance, if they run out of daycare, I will yell to stop so they don't run into the parking lot. They do stop on a dime. Ideally, yelling should be reserved for those situations but we are human.

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    1. Yeah. I know that I tend to yell the most at two situations - dawdling/ignoring me while we're trying to get out the door, and noise issues (ironic, I know). And safety issues, which are the only time that I really "want" to yell.

      The problem is that when I'm being ignored as we are getting out the door, I get louder and louder until I am at top volume which suddenly gets attention and gets things accomplished. Then my lizard brain resorts to that faster and faster because hey, it's effective - and sometimes it seems like the only thing that works.

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